Grocery Store Blues

Monday, May 24, 2010

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I'm getting a little sad making my grocery store list this week, because I just realized that my days of having a cute toddler companion are kind of over.

I remember being apprehensive about going to the grocery store for the first time when Big Guy was a baby. I wasn't sure if his infant seat would fit in the cart, and I suddenly couldn't visualize anyone ever having a baby with them in the grocery store - how did they do it? But the infant seat fit and later, I discovered the joys of the Baby Bjorn. A cooing, kicking baby to greet fellow shoppers as we roamed the aisles. We got lots of attention. When Big Guy graduated to the front seat of the cart, he loved to surround himself with boxes of noodles, cereal, whatever, nestle in, and suck his thumb. It was adorable.

There was a stressful period after Little Guy came along and I had to take both of them with me. Little Guy in the Baby Bjorn and Big Guy in the cart made shopping the ultimate multitasking experience. Sometimes they were both happy. Sometimes. Eventually, preschool started again, and I got in the habit of shopping on Thursday mornings, while Big Guy was crafting, singing, probably getting a time out or two at preschool. Thursday mornings at the grocery store became a date for me and Little Guy.

We go to one of the nicest grocery stores on the East Coast. The building looks more like a resort facility than a store. The people are just as nice, and all of them know us. The men who carry our groceries to the car greet us by name. Little Guy babbles to everyone and they all smile and respond.

Each child has certainly had moments of bad behavior at the store - I have been that woman, pushing a cart with a screaming kid. But mostly, these "dates" have been precious to me. A chance for one on one time with an observant baby or toddler, who points and laughs at the balloons in the produce section and gets excited when we approach the popsicle aisle. We bee-bop to the muzak, play peek a boo, laugh and chat as we go up and down, up and down, each aisle. Going to the grocery store myself is just not the same - a boring task, and awfully lonely.

So why does this have to change? Well, preschool is almost over for the summer, and that means I will have both boys, 24/7. A 3 year old and a 19 month old in my cart is not nearly as blissful. Lots of elbows and "he take dat from me!" and "waaah!" Not blissful.

In the fall, Little Guy will start preschool. Our mornings alone will come to an end. I think that is my issue. I will find myself with no children to care for - for the first time in years. I'm sure I will skip away happily and shout, "Hooray!" But for now, I'm feeling a bit sad.

The grocery store.

Just one of many experiences that changes drastically when you have kids.

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3 Responses to “Grocery Store Blues”

  1. Hi Courtney! Your Mom-in-law pointed me to your blog. I really like it! Keep up the good work.

    Lucky 3 Farm

  2. This perfectly captures my feelings about grocery shopping. My elder daughter is out of preschool for the summer. That's two for now, until it becomes three in a few weeks. Not sure how that's going to work out! Love your thoughts on daily life.

  3. Hi Courtney! Your Mom-in-law pointed me to your blog. I really like it! Keep up the good work.

    Lucky 3 Farm