Spring Break and Emotional Rest

Thursday, March 24, 2011



Thank you for the local suggestions left in the comments - totally going to use those. Hope others found them helpful, too. I have not mapped out every moment of our Spring Break, but I have penciled in travel dates and set plans in motion. Nice to have that scratched off the list.

It feels, restful . . . which leads me to the phrase that has been rolling around in my head this week, emotional rest. That is the subject for Bonnie's link up today, and I've got to admit, I've been stumped. How do I find emotional rest? What is emotional rest? Is it rest from my emotions? Is that also known as calm? When did I last feel calm?


Wednesday was a super productive day for me. I felt on top of my game, because I was multitasking like a maniac. I made work calls while driving to the repair shop, and I sent emails while I waited. I remembered to pick up photos on the way to preschool. I got the boys down for a nap while I started laundry. I switched the load while I jumped back on the work emails. I was snapping my fingers and feeling all sassy. Then my inbox became flooded with "undeliverable" messages, which I didn't send. I stared, furrowed my brow, and realized - my email had just been hacked.

My phone started ringing, and I got multiple emails asking, "Did you send this?" I drove the boys to swimming lessons and monitored the situation from my phone at each stoplight. My phone rang, but I couldn't answer it because of a lousy signal, and the boys started to fuss.

And then I remembered, emotional rest. Calm.

I turned off the phone and left it in the car. That is something I haven't done in a long time, I'm ashamed to say. I watched every moment of Big Guy's lesson. I held Little Guy in my lap and admired his profile. I caught Big Guy's eye every time he looked to make sure I was watching. I felt calm.

Multitasking works for me sometimes, but it is a fast moving train. A slight jerk to the left or right and oops - off the tracks. Emotional roller coaster. No wonder multitasking delivers such a high. Stay on the tracks and whoosh! Good times! Its a ride! Its exciting! I'm Put Together Amazing Mom.

But who cares about that?

Maybe the world. Maybe my boss. Maybe other moms. Not my kids. They care about me having an empty lap and available eyes. I learned that on Wednesday, for the 800th time, when I stepped off the roller coaster and embraced the idea of emotional rest.

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12 Responses to “Spring Break and Emotional Rest”

  1. You've nailed this. I understand the high, but also the perils, of multi-tasking. When we're busy, it can be so hard to focus on just one "task" and fully be there. Yet it's important, for our own sanity as well as for the people we love.

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  2. This one stumped me too. But I think you figured it out: having an “empty lap and available eyes.” Beautiful imagery to describe emotional rest. I'll try to remember this. Thanks for sharing.

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  3. Wow you days seem like mine. Ive been asking myself lately is my calendar out of control or am I? I think both! I like your phrase "multi-tasking Maniac!" I like when you said "Not my kids. They care about me having an empty lap and available eyes." Very powerful words! Just like with God, time is the most important we give our kids...they dont care as much about the "doing" for them as they do the being with them!

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  4. yeah...multi-tasker here, too. LOL. One wrong step and everything is in chaos.

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  5. I love hanging out with little kids---the most important thing is that I'm there. What I get done, what I know, where I've been---none of those things are as important as being fully present.

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  6. Multi-tasking is my trap...aaah! Just going off-the-grid like you did does wonders. Hope everything's all taken cared of with your email account now.

    It lifted me when you ended your day stepping off the roller coaster. Woohoo!

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  7. the clicking of the coaster on the tracks on the way up is exhilarating...the rush downward, scary...when it crashes...totally tragic, lol. Rollercoasters are over-rated, and trying to be everything to everyone all at the same time is impossible. Why do we women keep trying to make that work?
    thanks for the imagery!

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  8. LOVE this post. I shall try to remember it.

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  9. Multi-tasking can give us quite a high. Sometimes, though, with all the adrenaline pumping from the high speed functioning, it's also easier to get irritated with those we love the most.
    I'm a big list checker, but I'm learning how to let the Lord show me what He has planned for me that day.
    Blessings,
    Janis
    Stopped by from Faith Barista

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  10. Ah, the perils of multi-tasking! They are many. The empty lap and availability is so much more delightful. I read recently that multi-tasking is indeed a myth. Our brains can not hold more than one thought a time. So in essence when we multi-task, our brains are truly working 'like a maniac'.....
    Take a break, breath, relax.........you're on the right track.
    Stopped by from Faith Barista and hope to see you next week.

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  11. Ah, the perils of multi-tasking! They are many. The empty lap and availability is so much more delightful. I read recently that multi-tasking is indeed a myth. Our brains can not hold more than one thought a time. So in essence when we multi-task, our brains are truly working 'like a maniac'.....
    Take a break, breath, relax.........you're on the right track.
    Stopped by from Faith Barista and hope to see you next week.

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  12. Multi-tasking is my trap...aaah! Just going off-the-grid like you did does wonders. Hope everything's all taken cared of with your email account now.

    It lifted me when you ended your day stepping off the roller coaster. Woohoo!

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