Friends and Mentors

Friday, November 25, 2011

Welcome to Reap to Sow, where we are discussingThe Power of a Positive Mom by Karol Ladd. Links for the series are posted below. Click to catch up or jump right in!
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I hope you enjoyed reading Chapters 13 and 14 this week. On Monday, we talked about what we can reap from those chapters. Today, we will talk about sowing - what actions from the Power Points can we apply in our lives to become more positive mothers?

Chapter 13: Affirming Friendships
I chose the "Read" Power Point, and read 1 Samuel 20 and Colossians 3:1-17. Both passages describe the characteristics that will help friendships thrive, but I want to focus on 1 Samuel 20.

It tells the story of Jonathan and David's friendship, which was complicated, what with Jonathan's dad trying to kill David and everything. (Seriously, leave it to the Bible to tell some good stories of dysfunctional and scandalous families - puts a lot in perspective!) Jonathan ended up risking his life to save David, and while there is so much to think about from this chapter, the key for me was here:

And Jonathan had David reaffirm his oath out of love for him, because he loved him as he loved himself. I Samuel 20:17

Do I love my friends as much as I love myself? Do I ever risk something (let alone my life!) to help another? More importantly, how can I teach my kids to be selfless and giving friends?

Maybe I can share the story of David and Jonathan with them. Maybe they can see me being a good friend, showing compassion, kindness, humility, gentleness and patience to others. Maybe we can use that, and Jonathan's example of selfless, sacrificial love, to navigate the often complicated waters of friendship, together.

Chapter 14: Mentor Moms
For this one, the "Choose" Power Point fits me best: I will continually be on the lookout for opportunities to connect with other mothers in different stages of life than my own.

As I mentioned before, I don't have an official "mentor mom," right now, but I do know many mothers in different stages of life. I could do a much better job of seeking their wisdom and listening to their advice. My Bible study small group (of young mothers) is facilitated by a lady with grown children my husband's age - in fact, my husband was friends with her son and spent many a night at her house. She has stories :) She is great about keeping an open mind and never imposing her views on our group; but she influences us, nonetheless.

When I think about it, the possibilities for mentor moms abound: my sisters-in-law with teenage kids, the widowed grandmother two doors down, and the lady I've come to know from church with three grown sons.

So really it looks like the question for me is: Now that I see the opportunities, what will I do with them?

Maybe I can start with active listening to their stories about the way it was with their kids. Maybe I can come up with some thoughtful questions. Maybe I can just say, "Hey? Can I talk to you about something?"

What Power Points did you choose to sow this week?

If you've written a blog post on these chapters, please link it up in the comments below, and please (blogger or not) feel free to discuss any of the Power Points in the comments.

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One Response to “Friends and Mentors”

  1. Your question related to Chapter 13 is really convicting and a good opportunity to examine whether I am taking my friends for granted or actively loving them as I love myself.