How do you find the time?

Monday, February 27, 2012

A number of people have asked me lately, "How do you find the time to blog?"

I always experience an initial flash of paranoia: "They think I'm a lazy stay-at-home-mom who sits at the computer all day . . . " Then, I laugh and make some kind of self-depreciating comment like, "Well, you should see my house. It is a wreck!" I end with the quickest version of the truth, "It's my hobby."

The truth is, I love blogging, so I make time for it. I've grown in this space, writing on a regular basis and interacting with you. You hold me accountable, and allow me to talk about God. You motivate me and encourage me through motherhood, domestic bliss, and faith. Hopefully I do a little of the same for you.

Because of this blog, I have discovered that there are so many people out there "like me." I feel like part of a wonderful online community. Even better, I have discovered that I have more in common with people right here, who I've known forever. When a certain post strikes a chord, and a longtime friend approaches me, I thank God. Everything about A Work in Progress makes me feel closer to God, and that is the motivation. In fact, I'm pretty sure that I would not be appreciating the moments of my life as deeply as I do now, without this blog.

So, I make time for it. I write in the morning or at night, when the kids are in bed. I jot down ideas here and there. I upload photos when I'm cooking or folding clothes. I take pictures of things all the time. My family no longer stares when I photograph nail polish in the car, or the blender, or toys. I squeeze it in whenever I can, because this is my creative outlet and my therapy.

(One of my favorite blog-related photos.)

But the truth is . . . sometimes I blog when I should be playing with my children or hanging out with my husband. That truth makes me cringe. Sometimes, blogging can be an intrusive hobby. I have to watch that.

So how do I literally make time? I don't watch much TV, I multitask, and I ignore other things I should be doing. My family is incredibly generous and forgiving about the amount of time I spend with a laptop within reach. The clock isn't always as generous. As I look at my family's calendar for March and April, I can see that we are about to get busier than ever. Free time will get scarce, and blogging will have to be the first thing to go.

You may not notice it at first. This week's posts are already done. But eventually, there may be a day or two of silence, or some posts that are really short. I'm okay with that, and I have a feeling that you are, too. I bet you instinctively understand, and don't need this explanation at all.

I just felt compelled to answer the question openly and honestly, lest you think I'm a perfectly balanced person with more hours in the day than you.

I'm not.

And now that I think about it, no one has ever asked me, "How do you stay so perfectly balanced?" :) Which makes me wonder . . .

What is your hobby? How do you find the time for it?


P.S. Yohoo! Sara! You won the Ketchup is a Vegetable giveaway. If I don't hear from you by Monday night, then I'll have to pick a new winner . . .

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10 Responses to “How do you find the time?”

  1. I tend to blog after my husband is asleep -- since I am the night owl.  

  2. Hmmmm, I think you jumped into my head with this post.

    I do feel guilty when people ask me the "When do you have time to blog?" question. I feel as if they are saying, "Hmmm, what kind of important things are you cutting out because you are using up all of your time in front of the computer."

    I know it's me and not them, but it's a tender subject for sure.

  3. Yes! I feel the same way. It is a tender subject, which makes me defensive - how many hours are in the day and how am I using mine? It goes back to numbers, and what you've been saying about them lately.

  4. I hope one day to make more time for my little blog. It's like the Little Engine that Could, but it never reaches the top of that hill. I completely understand how you've found enrichment and fulfillment in blogging - writing does that for me as well.
    As for my hobby, I am a crafty lady. I don't really throw myself into any one hobby specifically; instead I dabble. I love to make jewelry, sew, stamp, scrapbook, cook, photograph, paint... looking at this list, I think I could sum it up as "creating". So that's my hobby. I only make time for it in little bits here and there. That makes me sad, but I have high hopes that over time I'll manage to work in a bit more and more to fulfill that desire to create. It makes me a happier person.

  5. Brandee - Your comment made me smile. You are a crafter! I don't do any of the things you listed; I would love to, but I get stumped and intimidated when I sit down and try to create something. I admire your pursuits, and you make a great point - your projects, "little bits here and there," make you a happier person. That is fantastic. It is so good to find whatever it is that does that, and pursue it. 

  6. Lyli - Don't you think it is so important to identify who has what sleeping patterns in a marriage? Makes everyone more productive and happier, I think. 

    Thanks for stopping by.

  7. I am wrapping up my first series on an audience of One. Living and loving for God alone, and that definitely includes blogging, is my focus. Trying to remember I will stand before Him, and that He is the only audience I have that really matters is changing my life. It is so freeing. Writing a devotional blog is easy when it is what I've learned at His feet, and I am free to share regardless of my stats. I do wander to the stats at times, but I am not ruled by them. I too love to blog and find it therapy as well.

  8. Yes, you speak about me, too. Sometimes I have a list of things to do that are so important to me, but seem unimportant to my family (or anyone else), so i wail and decry the whole deal -- why do I try so hard to do these things no one cares about? Then I learned something very personal and vital: if the things I must do (like write everyday) are important to God and my relationship with him, they are important. Period. And, if I commit these things (my blog, book chapters, etc.) to Him, he takes away that sense of inadequacy and frustration and gives me peace and open space to do it. What others may "see" from the outside is not as important as what God sees in our hearts. Bless you! Alyssa

  9. Alyssa - These are really wise words and they are going to stay with me. Thank you so much for sharing.

  10. Ha!  No one has asked me how I'm perfectly balanced either!  And I had to laugh at your initial response to the question.  "Oh now they think I'm lazy..."  I totally would have gone there, too!  Thank you for your honesty.  Love to you!