31 Days of Quality Time :: Day 5, Free Mornings

Friday, October 5, 2012

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I think what I'm suffering from here is the shock of my oldest entering grade school. It has changed my days, dramatically. We are up and at 'em earlier. Quiet Time has been obliterated. I have joined a gym, and I am working at my husband's office two mornings a week. This is a new season of motherhood for me. I've got more balls in the air and I've got to juggle most of them before the 2:15 carpool line.

As such, I'm working on a rhythm for my mornings, and I'm left with two that are "free." Two mornings where I don't have to go into an office or be a child's caretaker. Cue the avalanche of things I'd like to get done in 3 hours of free time! 
Work on this blog
Get a haircut
Enter stores with signs like, "All unattended children will receive a cup of espresso and a free puppy."
Have lunch or coffee with another child-free adult.

Enter the things that I don't want to "waste" my free time doing:
Go to the grocery store
Clean my house
Manage household finances, logistics, appointments, etc.
This is where a schedule becomes crucial for me. Of course I have to do the things on the latter list, but I want to do the things on the former. If I don't pencil in "exercise" then it won't get done. If I don't schedule "grocery store" on Thursday, then I'll be tempted to go three times during the week instead of making one (more efficient) trip. So, there is give and take. I won't do everything on the first list in my two free days, but identifying what I'd like to do is empowering. It keeps me on task when I spend a "free" morning paying bills, working on my blog, emailing for preschool committees, and doing laundry. When it is time to go get Little Guy from preschool, I feel like I've used my time wisely . . . and THAT allows me to focus on him when we are together.

Oooh. That feels like progress. Yay!

Do you ever feel overwhelmed by what you would like to accomplish in your free time?

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4 Responses to “31 Days of Quality Time :: Day 5, Free Mornings”

  1. Often. :)

    And there's this weird dynamic of loathing to do the "must do's" yet feeling really good about getting them done because they no longer glare at me from the mental - or physical - to do list. At some point, I'll probably grow up and realize it's just easier and a whole lot more pleasant to get 'em over with. ;)

  2. Everyday! You mean when we are 30 minutes late to the gym because we could not get "it" all done before taking time for yourself. I had a bad moment when I was frustrated when the boys would not nap to allow me 2 hours of "free time" but I decided to give myself a break. I just did one more load of laundry at night and decided it was ok if it was not folded and put up until the weekend. But I was glad I worked out first :)

  3. Andrea - I hear you. The weird dynamic is familiar to me. There are many tasks I dread, but once they are done - ah! Relief.

  4. I can totally relate! I seem to keep thinking that if I work really hard on my free mornings, I will finally just get CAUGHT UP once and for all and can kick back. I can't seem to adjust to the fact that as soon as you finish everything on your list, other things begin circling back on and that is never going to change. I'm working on trying to just enjoy the journey instead of some phantom destination :)