Fraud, and a Guy Named Chris

Thursday, August 15, 2013

Did you see Ashton Kutcher's acceptance speech at the 2013 Teen Choice Awards?

I'll admit, I didn't actually watch the Teen Choice Awards, but his speech keeps bumping into me on Facebook and Twitter. It's worth a listen.

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His three points have me considering my truest, most authentic self. 

Yesterday my husband called me out on the fact that the summer of transition has taken a toll on me. Feeling disorganized or like I might be disappointing someone by not getting something done is pretty much torture for my true self. I try to act all easy breezy about it, but - uhm - he sees through me. Probably other people see through me, too. What I needed, yesterday, was for the fraud to be identified: I wasn't magically accomplishing everything.

So, I took a day to refocus and, as Chris/Ashton says, that opportunity was actually hard work. I didn't spend a day pampering myself (though that isn't necessarily a bad thing, just not what I needed!) - I simply did what needed to be done. I played race cars with the boys, and tried to focus on them while they were home. While they were out, I made a bunch of phone calls, cleaned, created a meal plan for the first time in weeks and went to the grocery store alone. I unpacked more boxes. I threw more stuff away. I basically listened to what my truest, most authentic self needed, and that was this: I needed to stop faking it. I needed a day in an old t-shirt, using my brain to approach the day methodically and kindly, rather than looking nice and snapping at everyone. I needed to work on building the life that we want around here. That starts with me being me.
Have you ever been guilty of fraud? 

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4 Responses to “Fraud, and a Guy Named Chris”

  1. I hadn't taken the time to watch his acceptance speech until your post but it's really good and very insightful. I love it!

  2. That post you just wrote was very 'sexy'! I think he really made some great points and I think you are right, when we are doing what we do and not giving it our 100 percent then we are a fraud.

    I will try harder on this today also. I fight this in my head alllll the time. Seeing people doing AMAZING this and that's and instead of just doing my job the 'opportunity' that is before me and do it well my head is else where and wondering why I'm not over here doing this or that.

    Loved this post, great speech I think.

  3. Moving is so hard, and it IS a lot of work to just hunker down and do what needs to be done to get the new home where it needs to be. But as Ashton says, even in a tshirt, building a life is sexy. :)

  4. I don't have moving as an excuse, but medical issues and writing projects kept me from loving on my home. This is the week that is changing. I have projects planned for each day to get my home back in shape. I, too, hate feeling like fraud!