Never Say Never

Monday, October 14, 2013

I'll never work with my husband.
My desk is in the back of his office.

I'll never drive a minivan.
It's green.

I'll never touch QuickBooks.
I cheered over reconciliations today.

I'll never need rides for my kids.

That last one snuck up on me. I didn't realize I had such a vain, self-righteous attitude about being available to shuttle my children to and from every activity . . . until suddenly, I wasn't available. It has hit me, over the last few months (and rather unpleasantly, I might add) that - indeed - I cannot be in two places at once. 

This realization has been, without question, a gift. When I'm faced with the blessed reality that I'm not Wonder Woman and I can't be everywhere, for each child, all the time, good things happen.

I'm reminded of the blessing of friends: "Can I give J a ride tomorrow?" 

I discover the relief of accepting help. "Yes, that would be great. Thank you." 

I enjoy the feeling of community: "How about I pick up your child tomorrow?"

I savor the quiet moments in between: "We're going to skip that. We need an afternoon at home."

When I get past the initial unpleasantness, I realize that God has a larger purpose behind even little changes. Get off your island, Courtney. Don't be afraid to ask for help. Don't hesitate to give it. The rewards of community are great. And the treasure of time with your children is (actually) more visible when you don't have it constantly. 

I'll never make that mistake again.


I'm sure I'll make these mistakes again, but I will never say never again. Promise.
Has your "I'll never" ever come to pass?

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2 Responses to “Never Say Never”

  1. Courtney: I can so relate! Sounds like your setting up some boundaries for yourself that are really working for you! When we try to do everything ourselves (it isn't really possible, is it?) then we miss out on so many blessings. Great!

    Christy @ A Heartening Life

  2. Never say never -- how many times I've been caught in that trap! I wish I always remembered God's plan behind my never declarations.